Getting Women To Go Out With You! - Some People Need a Good Clubbing: # 24

“Getting Women To Go Out With You!”

By Michael “Bishop” Emery

When a guy asks a woman out, he typically asks in one of these ways:

• "Would you like to go out some time?"
• "We should go out some time."
• “I’m going to a party on Friday, do you want to come?”
• “You should come to this party I’m going to.”

What is wrong with every single one of these? The answer is that they are giving her something to say no to, and unless she gets a better offer “no” is the answer you will most often get. You may have read in one of my other articles me saying that I don’t date in the traditional sense. I am about to tell you in what sense I do date, and how it has proven to be a much more effective way of doing things.

First of all, I never, ever, ask a woman out.

“Huh? So how do you get a woman to go out with you?”

I get a woman to go out with me by INVITING HER to where I am already going to be, instead of ASKING her if she wants to come. Instead of saying to a woman, “Would you like to join me for lunch on Wednesday” I will say, “I’m having lunch at XYZ restaurant on Wednesday; you’re welcome to join me.” Or instead of saying, “Would you like to go to a party on Friday?” I will say, “My friend’s having a party on Friday; you can come if you’d like.” The reason I do it this way is because:

1. It puts less pressure on her than asking her out on a date might cause.
2. It lets her know that you’re going to be doing it anyway, whether she joins you or not.
3. It demonstrates that you’re not seeking her approval or eager for her acknowledgment.
   

Inviting her instead of asking her to come or telling her she should come is more powerfully attractive, you will find far more women will agree to come and actually come! If you want to see something really interesting, put a party together at your place and say to some of the women you talk to, “I’m having a party on Friday; you’re invited to come join the fun, and you can invite a girlfriend or two.” Watch how many of those women will actually show up versus the ones you say, “I’m having a party on Friday; you should come, and bring a girlfriend or two.”

Sometimes a simple little change in how you present something can make a powerful difference!

Be well, my friend, and live unleashed!

Michael “Bishop” Emery