Attraction and How It Works! - Some People Need a Good Clubbing: # 17

"Attraction and How It Works!"

By Michael “Bishop” Emery

What is “attraction” and how does it actually work? We know it when we feel it, however explaining it is a difficult thing for most people. I am going to share with you how I have come to understand attraction and how it works. By having an understanding of attraction and how it works, you will find many pieces of seduction fall into place for you and your experiences with women will likely improve beyond what you have been used to.

Instead of getting into a mind-numbing technical dialogue on how attraction works, I am going to explain it in easy to understand terms. Attraction is created based on two factors; what we see/hear externally, and how our mind and body reacts to it internally. Simply put, things “out there” influence things “in here.” We may think we know what will and will not attract us, what “works” for us and what does not, but the truth is that attraction happens without needing your permission or approval. No thought goes through a woman’s head of deciding to be attracted to you, it just happens inside of her and she can not stop it.

Most people, especially those lovely creatures called women, believe that we are attracted to a certain body type, a certain hair color, perhaps a certain height. Most women say they have a “type.” However, you can meet someone with the body type, hair color, and height that are ideal to you, yet not become attracted to them. The reason being, attraction is actually not based on any of those things! If it were, we would never lose attraction for someone once we felt it. Also, those things that people categorize as their “type” is what is attractive to them, but it is not what actually causes them to feel attraction. Those things are simply external reminders of pleasure a person has had in the past, and in many cases you were not even aware that someone from your past is why you even have a “type.” Women have said to me, “That has always just been my type” but upon probing her with questions I have found, every single time, it all started because of one guy who affected her on a deep level and he just so happened to be what she now calls her “type.”

The same is true of guys who have a “type.” If your “type” is tall brunettes with a nice ass, that is only because at some point in your past someone of this “type” had a strong affect on you. It might have been your 5th grade teacher, or the sister of a friend, or the first Playboy Playmate you ever masturbated to, or perhaps a woman whom you felt deeply inferior to so on a subconscious level attracting a woman of that “type” is like at last attracting that woman from your past. If you dig deep enough into your own past, you will find that your “type” began with one woman, no exceptions. So if it is not a “type” that causes us to feel attraction, what does? What attracts us, men and women alike, is one thing: Higher Status Level.

Status is based on several things, including:

• social value
• knowledge level
• availability
• skills
• ambition
• security
• associations

Women feel attraction toward someone if she perceives the guy to have high social value, or popularity. Women gravitate toward whom others have already gravitated towards, not toward someone who seems hungry for company. Women feel attraction toward someone if she perceives the guy to have knowledge that she may lack but would like to have, or knowledge that she also has but has not found common in others having as well. Knowledge is power, as the saying goes. We gravitate toward someone of higher knowledge than us because it is in our nature to evolve past where we currently are, to grow.

Women feel attraction toward a guy she perceives as unavailable, or not easy to get time with. Low amounts of availability, or “scarcity” causes a woman to want a guy even more. This is especially the case when the guy has one or more of the other thing on the high status level list above. Women feel attraction toward someone she perceives to have skills she would like to have, or skills she finds impressive but questions if she could be skilled at it as well. This is different than knowledge level though, in that skills are the results of applied knowledge and effort.

When you combine knowledge level with skills, you get “ambition.” The only reason I separated it from knowledge level and skills is because ambition can be noticed without having to first see a person’s knowledge or skill level. A woman can recognize a man’s ambition based on other factors. For example, a woman could see my name on my books and see my name on several of these articles, yet without having read any of the books or articles could attach the perception that I have ambition. Women feel attraction toward someone she perceives to security in his life. This could be financial security, emotional/mental, physical, a combination of these or all of them together. Very few of us feel harmony in our lives so when someone comes along, whom we perceive to have such harmony, it sparks attraction. This is especially true for women who meet a man with perceived harmony in his life.

Women feel attraction toward a guy if he is friends with people whom she has already attach high status levels toward. For example, without name dropping, I know someone whose name is very recognizable here in Las Vegas. One night at a club a woman over heard me as I told some out of town friends that I knew this “big name” so we could go see this person’s show anytime while they are in town. The woman, who knew not a thing about me, approached me suddenly interested in talking to me. She was not a gold-digger or celebrity junkie, in fact she was already financially well off and knew a couple of “big names” herself. It was simply the implied status I had by knowing this “big name.” This kind of attraction happens even with “regular” friends you may have, as long as the woman attaches high status levels to that friend. When women perceive you to have some or all of these “Higher Status Levels” it will spark her attraction, despite what your body type, hair color, or height may be. Like I said earlier, attraction is something she has no real control over.

If you found value in what you have just read, and want to learn ways to have these perceived Higher Status Levels or how to enhance a woman’s attraction even more deeply, grab a copy of my e-course, “The Fire of Seduction” and be the man who attracts the kind of quality women that you desire!

Be well, my friend, and Live Unleashed!

Michael “Bishop” Emery